What Black Holes Teach Us About Coaching
Do you know what a black hole is?
Sure, you might say, “It’s that thing up in the sky that sucks everything in.” And in a way, you’re right — but we can do better than that.
A black hole is literally a star that has collapsed in on itself, floating in space and pulling everything toward it, even light itself.
Beyond the physical reality of what a black hole is, the most astonishing thing is this: scientists still haven’t figured out what’s inside them.
Some say it’s absolutely nothing. Others believe they are bridges in the fabric of space-time — theoretically even traversable to travel through time.
Pure speculation. Science fiction.
Yet black holes have something truly unique. Anything at the center of a black hole is called a “singularity.” Just imagine: even the Big Bang itself may have been triggered by one.
But what’s fascinating is the hunger — the burning desire — that scientists around the world have to uncover what black holes contain. Because understanding them could unlock the so-called “theory of everything,” a single explanation of how the entire universe works.
Reading all these stories about black holes, I’ve always wondered if there could be a personal “theory of everything” — one that could clearly explain who we truly are and what we truly want.
Imagine being able to embark on a journey within yourself, just like a scientist diving into a black hole, to uncover your deepest secrets — the ones that could unlock extraordinary personal growth.
It would be amazing if something like that were possible...
...but maybe it is.
Because in the end, that’s exactly what coaching teaches us. Over time, I’ve come to understand just how profoundly it can help us explore and expand our self-awareness.
Of course, diving deep into yourself can feel as risky as plunging into a black hole… if you don’t have the right tools.
I’m Filippo, and in this article, I want to share with you the secrets of humanistic psychology.
What is Humanistic Psychology?
Sometimes I think we were made to grow.
Think about it: that’s exactly what we do from the very moment we’re conceived. And I’m not just talking about physical growth — every action, every influence, every environment shapes us as individuals.
Humanistic psychology is the branch of psychology that emphasizes the individual as a being with an innate potential for growth, freedom, and self-actualization.
But unfortunately, this growth doesn’t always emerge the “right” way. Sometimes, it remains hidden.
That’s exactly why it needs to be nurtured.
Stephen Hawking was the scientist who contributed more than anyone else to the study of black holes. But imagine if he had been trapped in a box his whole life.
Without his journey of growth, we wouldn’t be here today drawing parallels between inner journeys and the exploration of black holes.
And you, too. If you are where you are today, it’s thanks to your path of development. The same will be true for what you become tomorrow — are you really willing to leave that up to chance?
That’s why it’s important to embrace humanistic psychology, directing our growth consciously and safely:
Self-actualization: Abraham Maslow, a major figure in humanistic psychology, defined self-actualization as the highest point of personal development. It’s about fully expressing your potential, realizing your talents, and seeking deeper meaning in life.
Self-acceptance: humanistic psychology encourages unconditional self-acceptance. It invites people to acknowledge and embrace all parts of their personality — including the most vulnerable or challenging ones.
Search for meaning: a key part of self-discovery is the search for meaning in life. It helps people reflect on what gives their lives purpose by exploring their values, goals, and deepest desires — guiding decisions that lead to greater fulfillment (no regrets!).
Stimulate Growth (3 Techniques + 1 Bonus)
I know exactly how it feels to hit that wall — that period so many people go through when they feel stuck in life.
And I know it because I’ve been there. I know what it’s like to be certain you’re in the wrong place, doing the wrong thing, and feeling unsatisfied.
But that awareness is exactly the starting point of a real journey toward personal growth.
That’s why I want to share some powerful tools with you — tools to break through that block, overcome that barrier, and help you grow exponentially and reach wherever you want to go.
And pay attention, because the final technique is incredibly powerful:
Reflective journaling: every evening, spend 10–15 minutes writing about your day. Reflect on how you felt in certain situations, what stood out or surprised you, and what you'd like to explore further. You can also write down questions you have about yourself, exploring your desires, needs, and goals. This builds self-awareness and helps identify patterns in your behavior.
Creative visualization: find a quiet place and close your eyes. Picture yourself reaching an important goal or living through a desired experience. Imagine every detail: how you feel, how you act, what emotions come up. This gives you a more conscious and vivid image of the fulfilled version of yourself.
Self-compassion: when you’re frustrated or fail at something, take a moment to speak to yourself kindly, as you would to a friend. Remind yourself that mistakes are normal, and that challenges are part of the growth process. The aim is to build self-esteem, reduce inner criticism, and develop a more positive self-image.
All of these techniques will help you grow — truly and in unexpected ways.
But let me tell you about the last one, the most powerful of all:
Practice gratitude: every morning or evening, write down three things you’re grateful for. They can be simple experiences like a meaningful conversation, a beautiful sunset, or a personal win. This strengthens a positive mindset and helps you maintain a more balanced view of your life.
This technique is the most powerful because it’s universally shareable.
Are you grateful to someone for something they did? Tell them.
Whether it was a coffee or a ride to work, let them know how much you appreciated it. Let them see that nothing is taken for granted. This simple gesture not only helps you appreciate the little things but also inspires and uplifts the people around you.
So, you’ve probably noticed it too.
To grow is to explore. To know yourself. To discover what you truly want to live for.
Picture yourself as a scientist on the verge of a Nobel Prize, about to make a sensational discovery about black holes — a revelation so powerful it could reshape our understanding of the entire universe.
Now channel that same hunger — that same drive for discovery — into your inner journey.
Who I am
I’m just an ordinary guy who, at one point in his life, got tired of walking the beaten path and chose instead to live moment by moment. Today, I live in Australia, support myself with two jobs, and pursue my passions. And yes — this is the life for me. It’s my ideal dimension.
Feeling fulfilled today is one of the hardest challenges we face — but I’m here to help. Each of us is searching for our path, often unaware that the answer is already within us, hidden beneath layers of doubt and insecurity.
My goal is to help you break through those layers so you can reach your true self — so that when you look in the mirror, you can finally say: “Yes, that’s me.”
Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.
Be clear, be confident, and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.
